At a loss for what to write next, I asked my mom, who suggested writing on the topic of adoption, since buyers “adopt” the Schaabling Shire Shoppe Amigurumi Pets when they purchase them. In fact, the Pet comes with a miniature Adoption Booklet, as discussed in a previous blog post. It just so happens that adoption is something I feel strongly about, so I decided that was a good idea! However, I began to do some research and just became confused. Allow me to explain, illustrating with six Biblical tales of adoption (Moses, an unnamed woman, Esther, Jesus, Timothy, and Christians).
I’ve always understood adoption to be the ultimate, selfless sacrifice on the part of the birth mother. The adoptive parents certainly make some sacrifices as well; however, I believed then, and still believe now, that it is a much larger, much more selfless sacrifice on the part of the birth mother. In researching adoption, I found this quote:
“Adoption, unfortunately, is seen as the most ‘evil’ of the three options, (abortion, motherhood, adoption)… A woman desperately wants a sense of resolution to her crisis, and in her mind, adoption leaves the situation the most unresolved… This study suggests that in pitting adoption against abortion, adoption will be the hands-down loser.”
This makes sense to me. How many times have we—especially those of us volunteering in pregnancy centers—heard a young woman say she would rather have an abortion than “give up my baby”? This seems so counterintuitive. For example, Moses was adopted by the Egyptian princess only because his birthmother was faced with the threat of his death (Ex. 1:16, 22) and giving him to the Egyptian princess saved his life. Similarly, when two women came to King Solomon with a disagreement over to which woman the living child belonged as opposed to the dead child, and Solomon ordered the child cut in two and one half given to each woman, the natural mother cried out in protest, offering the child to the other woman in order to save his life (I Kings 3:16-28).
So in two of the six Biblical tales of adoption, the birthmother gave her child to an adoptive family only to save his life. Isaiah tells how Israel claimed God had forsaken her, saying, “Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? [….]” (Isa. 49:15a) It seems impossible, given the previous examples of adoption. However, as God responds, “Yea, they [the mothers] may forget, yet will I not forget thee.” Certain birthmothers forget” or “give up” their children, but God acts as “A Father of the fatherless” (Ps. 68:5) and adopts the forgotten and forsaken (Ps. 27:10).
To be continued…